Why

Why did this happen to us? Why did our baby have to die? When we lose a child, there are a million questions with no answers. Sometimes we might get a medical reason for our loss, sometimes not. Whether there is a medical explanation or not, the question, why, is still there. As our mind tries to figure how to deal with our loss, why, becomes one of the top unanswerable questions. Will there ever be answer that could satisfy the, why? Probably not. We could choose to blame ourselves and criticize every decision we made during the pregnancy, but that would not bring our children back and would most likely lead to more anguish. It can be helpful to think of what to do with it instead. As we have been deprived of parenting our child, it can help to do something for our child to honor their memory and continue their influence on our life. Knowing they did not die in vain, knowing that their life, however brief, made a difference to the people around them is profound. We have been changed forever by that tiny little life, to continue on in a fashion that would make them proud of us as their parents, is to continue their legacy. Sadly, their lives may not seem very significant, to the outside world. But we know the truth, these tiny babies accomplished in a small about of time, what others need a lifetime to accomplish. They have touched our hearts and left a very large mark on us. 
We are lucky and proud to be their parents.