First Trimester Loss

Pregnancy loss at any stage is hard. I think the loss of a pregnancy during the first trimester can be the hardest. In most cases, you have nothing, no photo, no ultrasound, no urn, no grave site to tend. Most doctors do not do any testing to determine cause after a single loss. Many people say it's common and to just get over it and try again. There is literally no one to turn to. It is tragic, on top of losing your precious child, you have also lost the right to grieve.
There are many things that may help after a first trimester loss. Naming your child can be extremely helpful. No matter how long your pregnancy lasted, this was still your baby. A name can help you make a real connection with your child. A name makes your child real, it was not a group of cells, it was not a tiny embryo or a fetus, it was your baby. Over the years I have met many parents who have named children they never got to see or touch. Children that may otherwise have been forgotten.
Another way to help grieve for your child is to make a donation in your child name or in your family name to a foundation for children or a needy family with a child close in age to your baby. The gift of giving can go a great distance to help your heart find peace again.
Sometimes a piece of jewelry can be helpful. There are many types of memorial jewelry to be found that can help as a physical reminder of your loss. A locket, angel pin or pendant or a bracelet can be a tangible reminder of your loss and your love.
Your love for your child starts well before the birth. Your love starts before conception. Your love started when you first thought about starting a family. How can you be expected to just turn your back on a child created in love, even though the child has passed away?

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