Time

It is often said that “time heals all wounds” or “this too shall pass.” Time passes. It does not heal. Healing is an active process. It doesn’t happen to us. We must participate in the process of our healing. Healing also happens for us. It is a gift we give to ourselves in the moment we decide to stay “open” to what has broken us. It allows us to bring our lost babies with us, through the rest of our lives. It allows us to share our babies with our subsequent children and teach them about love and loss, compassion and empathy. 


As a newly bereaved parent, this might sound impossible. Healing, thankfully, does not require huge steps. Tiny steps add up. Before you think it is even possible, you might find yourself smiling at the thought of your baby instead of just crying. You might see a butterfly and think of your child peaceful and free. Sure, there will be setbacks along the way, but when you taste the freedom and peace healing can provide, you will be inspired to continue. Our babies deserve a chance at the happiness and love our healing can give.

Time does not heal, but healing does take time. Give yourself the gift of time. 



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http://www.griefhealing.com/column1.htm